Monday, June 21, 2010

The BEST of Times

When I started writing this post, I had something completely different in mind. I asked my mom, what should the title of this Monday's entry be?! I didn't want her to know what I was writing about and my description was, "what should I name my post that only talks about one worldly thing that I couldn't possibly live without...?" He response to me was this, "Start writing it first and then it will come to you." For those of you who know my mom (or even if you're only acquainted with her on Facebook), you know she is a great writer! So... I took her advice and started writing that 'materialistic' blog of mine. Oh, by the way, this was all on Saturday. And then, it all changed! You know those times where you spend like two weeks writing your talk for sacrament meeting and then you wake up that morning and you think to yourself, "Shoot! I can't get up there and say that!" This was one of those situations. Rest assured, I am just postponing that other blog until next week. It can wait, this one can't.

On Saturday, I had an experience that taught me a lot. Without any details, I'll start by saying that things haven't been easy breezy for me these past couple of weeks and months. Nothing serious, don't worry. I'd just been having a hard time figuring out where I'm supposed to be and what I'm supposed to be doing. It's such an awkward time of life and I'm just not sure how to take it sometimes. I can be having the time of my life one day, and the next, I have no idea what happened. I feel like I am giving a good effort to make the best of it, but even then, I have to figure out how to do that.

Saturday night was the first time in who knows how long that my family was all together. Just us. We barbecued together (and of course, we burned the chicken), then we went bowling. For the life of me, I cannot remember the last time we ALL went bowling together. I didn't even know my dad was really good at bowling. I must have gotten his genes there because I won the second game with 5 strikes!! That has definitely never happened before. I haven't even been practicing... Then it was off to Baskin Robbins. Mmmmm Mmmmm good. On our way there, we blasted some MJ and rocked out to "Beat It." I mean, we REALLY rocked out with the windows down. You may think we're weird, I don't care, we were having a good time and everyone we passed was smiling! Well worth it, I'd say. Do any of you do that with your families? Or alone...? haha because I do.

While we were driving home (still rockin' out, mind you), a song came on that had a humongous impact on me. Were any of you raised listening to STYX? Some of my favorite memories include riding the car with the top down and blasting the STYX Greatest Hits album. The song that came on during this particular occasion was "The Best of Times." It was in that moment that I realized that these truly are the BEST of times. Things aren't easy right now, and maybe they never will be. But that's ok. I have some of the best friends in the whole world. My four very best friends were rockin' out with me in the car and I wouldn't have wanted to be anywhere else. Here are some of the lyrics:

Tonight's the night we'll make history
Honey, you and I.
'Cuz I'll take any risk
To tie back the hands of time
And stay with you here tonight.

I know you feel these are the worst of times I do believe it's true.
When people lock their doors and hide inside
Rumor has it, it's the end of Paradise.

But I know
If the world just passed us by
Baby, I know
I wouldn't have to cry. No, no.

The best of times

Are when I'm alone with you

Some rain, some shine
We'll make this a world for two.

Our memories of yesterday will last a lifetime.
We'll take the best, forget the rest

And someday we'll find

These are the best of times.

It occurred to me that I can make any time the best time. I also recognized that any time I am with my family, I feel loved and important and needed. I know that when I'm with them, I have a place and a purpose. I'm not expecting to get married anytime soon, but I realized that the girl I get to marry will be pretty lucky. I don't say this because she will end up with me (haha), but she is going to become family with the four best people I know. Dad is always there to provide and support for us. He is constantly sacrificing everything he wants and needs to make sure that we are well taken care of. Mom is the most supportive and encouraging friend anybody could ever ask for and she will love you no matter what. Lauren is the one always encouraging us to do better and she is the family 'protector.' Don't let her get around you will an airsoft gun if she suspects you've done something to hurt one of us! And Tanner will always keep everyone on their toes and laughing. He can make even the most terrible times something to smile about. I'd say that I've got everything I need. The worldly stuff can wait. I get this forever.

Monday, June 7, 2010

laugh with me! or at me? I don't really care... just laugh!

"Laugh as much as you breathe, love as long as you live."

If I laugh to much for you, I don't apologize. I don't sympathize, nor do I understand. There are a few things I cannot live without- although some of the things on that list are: iPhone, my magic bullet, and my costco card- I would rather die than live without laughter. This post is going to contain some of my thoughts about laughter as well as many quotes from wiser people who were either smarter than me or just better with words.

"If every word I said could make you laugh, I'd talk forever..."

If I laugh with you, I feel comfortable with you. It means that I like being around you. If I can laugh with you about anything, I love you. If you make me bust a gut, you are my friend. If my abs hurt after spending time with you, you must be my best friend. If we don't laugh, I'm sorry... but I honestly don't think that happens very often. Laughing builds relationships. If two people can laugh and smile with each other about anything, I feel like a bond is formed. Victor Borge once said, "Laughter is the closest distance between two people." Apparently, laughing brings you closer to someone than spooning with them...? I think I am ok with this- not to discourage spooning in any way, haha. I heard the quote a while ago that "laughter is the way to true love" (anonymous) and I believe it. I don't understand love without laughter. To me, that's like living without air- not possible. To love someone isn't only defined as an unspoken connection between two people. To me, it's much more than that. What do you talk about? What brings you closer together? What makes you smile? What moments do you share? What do you laugh about together? Laughing with a loved one doesn't have to be a 24/7 thing, but I think that it should be something that occurs more often than not.

"Try as much as possible to be wholly alive, with all your might, and when you laugh, laugh like hell and when you get angry, get good and angry. Try to be alive. You will be dead soon enough."
-William Saroyan

One of my favorite quotes came from Christopher Morley. He said, "Do, every day, something no one else would be silly enough to do." Anyone who knows me well, knows that that one 'something' can easily turn into many other things. "The person who knows how to laugh at himself will never cease to be amused." (Shirley MacLaine) Well, it's true isn't it? I'm living proof! Constantly amused... Please don't blame me, I take after my mom, who is also very amused when she can laugh at herself. In my opinion, things shouldn't always be so serious. I have found that when I look back on a situation which I have handled poorly, I wish I would've have laughed rather than what my actual reaction was. The situation could have been less intense and complicated. I have learned from those experiences and now do my best to laugh rather than stress!

"Laughter is the shock absorber which eases the blows of life."

I am probably the only one who notices a difference, but I feel like my 'laugh' is back. The past couple of weeks have been pretty awesome. I felt like I'd lost my touch to enjoy life, but I just had some lessons to be learned I guess? I don't know what happened, but I am sitting here on a marvelous Monday and smiling because I had a great weekend. It doesn't matter what I did or who I was with, but I laughed the ENTIRE time! From a hilariously fun concert on Thursday, to a great time 'camping' on Friday, a day with the family on Saturday, and some interesting experiences on Sunday, I laughed. My abs hurt. My cheeks hurt. And I love it.

"God is a comedian, playing to an audience that is too afraid to laugh."